The amicable fool or the Obnoxious Genius? Make your pick!
The importance of being Likeable
I would like to point your attention to the American presidential elections. At the Republican party we had 5 candidates : Mccain, Romney, Huckabee, Gulianni and Thompson. There is no question who is going to be the nominee. But I will take a look at all the candidates. Gulianni lost because of his ultra stupid strategy. Thompson was just irrelevant and Romney didn’t connect with the people. All three of them had another common characteristic; They were not likeable enough, none of them. Romney may be a great administrator and Financier but probably his people skills need tweaking. Thompson is still irrelevant and Giuliani is one definition for obnoxious. On the other hand you see this guy(who believes evolution didn’t happen- maybe it left him behind) out of nowhere with no financial backing coming as a strong Nr2. What is wrong here? No rational person(at least in my perspective) would vote for a guy who has said that “bumblebees fly but we never ask why!”. It seems there are a lot of non-rational people out there. But huckabee is likeable, he can crack a joke, he can connect with people. If you read articles even non huckabee supporters like his way of behaving(playing the guitar) he is more relax more genuine when he is surrounded by common people. The same can be said for Mccain. Mccain is not so likeable but people like him because they see a trait in him they do not usually meet: Honesty and consistency.
Turn our attention to the democratic party. Mr. Obama a young guy has mesmerized half the county. Even his opponents(the republicans) cannot assault him because he is extremely likeable. I mean the more they try to attack him the more they damage themselves(Clinton included). Clinton on the other hand is one of the most polarizing figures in this election. She is an amazing woman, with probably the best chance to improve this country and revive the “Clinton years”, but at the same time she is hated by 50% of the populations. Obama a new kid on the block is loved and hasn’t attacked anyone yet. Obama support has to do a lot with his optimism. If you listen to him you get the idea of a better future and a better life(unlike the republicans who evoke fear and isolation). To my Greek readers let me remind you Karamanlis the Elder Vs Papandreou the womanizer. Who won? The 2nd guy, why? Because he was full of shit!
Maybe if obama wins he may end up even worse than Bush. This though doesn’t change how likeable he is. People like to listen to him, to be associated with him(more or less like JFK). Now to the main point.
It is better to be the amicable fool rather than the obnoxious genius. In every social setting whether it is work, school, social activities people want to hung out with nice guys. Think about it for a moment. Remember at school? Probably you had a schoolmate who was a genius but at the same time he got on your nerves(not because he was better than you, just because he was a prick). What about work? All of us had to work with the genius person who could do anything in half the time,but would give you twice the headaches. On the other hand I bet that most of you remember some guys who were just cool to spend time with(regardless of how skilled they were).
For the ones now going to INSEAD. Nobody likes the smart guy. Who is the smart guy you may ask; The one who is trying non-stop to prove that he has knowledge. If you have a guy at your class who is trying to answer every single question you know what kind of types I am referring to. Be friendly to your classmates do not see them as competitors who are after the same opportunities. When questions are asked do not try to show that you have all the answers. Believe me you may think that you are the cleverest person in the room but from a statistic viewpoint there is a 50% chance you are below average(deal with it). You will be surrounded by clever people. Show to them that you are wise
Knowledge must be like a pocket watch. Always in standby and taken out only when ones asks for the time.
Students should try to make connections with each other. Avoid the 2 most common mistakes. One cannot make friends with everybody. If ones tries then he has a problem and needs to see a doctor and fast on top of that. On the other hand people who never talk to anybody and are focused 105% to their reading these are to be avoided. They believe that success comes form books and readings. They miss the necessary people skills(probably one of the most important traits humans should aquire). The loners will never speak to other in class sand will go straight to the library. I remember that during INSEAD at my promotion we had a guy who NEVER spoke during class. It is telling that when we changed seating charts in P2 a greek friend of mine came to me and asked: Has the class changed? Who is this new guy? What is he doing here?
The sad part? He was right. The “ghost” had never participated in anything.
I would like to close this blog entry by letting you know that one should try to strike a balance, make some good friends and then keep connections with the rest of his ecosystem.
Zanat0s Out!


